Dear @Filipa_Texas,
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I like how you’ve highlighted how complex the issue is and indeed your feelings are just as justified as your partner’s was for being very cautious about who he told (this thread has a couple of experiences: How have you dealt with discrimination because of your HBV status? and Stigma and chronic hep b).
There are also other partners of people with Hep B here: @everich https://www.hepbcommunity.org/t/having-children-and-hepatitis-b/166; @Miriam.K https://www.hepbcommunity.org/t/introduction-thread-people-affected-by-hep-b/23/15; and @mark Dealing with the diagnosis in a relationship. Perhaps they could provide some advice.
Mine would be to focus more on what can be done now, the past is unchangable. I guess both of you have changed since you first met and it might be best to communicate about how you’ve come to this point in your relationship.
It might also be worth mentioning to your partner that there is a supportive community here that he can access anonymously, if he wishes.
Hope this helps,
Thomas